The Art of Loving Yourself Fiercely

Research shows that we are designed for human connection. Our bodies, minds and hearts were innately created to long for and thrive with this connection. In other words, we are the healthiest version of ourselves when we are connected and feel loved.

And as some of us may pine to lose those last few pounds, get that new job, sleep through the night, or in my case, for that loving soulful partner, it takes legwork or perhaps better said, heart work.

I had to truly change if I really wanted to manifest a divine romantic relationship…let go of all of my beliefs, particularly the belief that perhaps I was not worthy of a successful career and…a divinely loving and soulful relationship.

Change the way I thought about myself, being in a relationship, and how to love myself more fully.

I have been looking for a divine romantic relationship all my life.

One in which you can be vulnerable, screw up, see your faults, and find a partner to hold space for you to grow as you move through the ups and downs of becoming the best version of you in relationship.

Here’s what I have learned when it comes to getting that thing you want more than anything else in the whole world:

You can eat right for your body, manage your stress, exercise regularly and practice good sleep hygiene, but there is still one thing missing to give you all the vitality you need and deserve…

Love…Yes unconditional love is something we all we need. 

People die from broken hearts every day. Of course it shows up in the forms of cancer, diabetes, addiction, and other chronic illness.

What I realized after a month of traveling cross country with my beloved partner Joe, meeting his extended family and celebrating love and loss, was that it was blissful and hard all at the same time.

So many highs and lows of emotions and different challenges, but I was always held in love. Each new family member I met greeted me with warmth, love, and non-judgment.

And Joe, well he held my heart as any man who has dove deep into the depths of his soul would do. He held it with respect, understanding, and unconditional love.

Even as my little girl had tantrums when I didn’t get my way and when I felt not good enough!

I realized this unconditional love was exactly what I was hoping for…and I do believe when I put my order into the universe for my man, I said “ I want a man I can grow and evolve with”.

HA! What was I thinking?

It’s like praying for God to bring you patience and then you wonder why you have all of these circumstances that require an exuberant amount of patience.

Well duh…naturally I would come upon challenges to help me “grow and evolve”! I cried when I realized this, as I had no idea how hard it would truly be.

I had nothing to do but love myself even though I wanted to give myself a swift kick in the ass for asking for such a thing that would be so challenging on my heart.

We have returned home. It is no coincidence that I am feeling healed in my physical body and my heart is full in a way I never thought possible.

I literally felt it crack open and get bigger (think the Grinch except I am no Grinch) as I got uncomfortable with why my heart was hurting, but clear with my heart and how I could even hold and love myself more.

I am celebrating the healing from the vertigo and neck injury from March and leaning into all that I learned on that journey and on the recent road trip across the country.

After all, every emotional pain in our body shows up as physical pain. And the pain will remain until we dive deep and explore what our body is trying to tell us.

And at the bottom of every emotional pain and physical pain is love. Most of all, love for yourself.

Having a tight grip on my independence was doing nothing for my relationship in terms of deepening and growing as I struggled to let someone help and support me through vertigo and chronic neck pain.

I also learned that when I was physically restricted and needed help getting out of bed for days, it became clear to me that part of my journey was to accept and receive support and that I actually didn’t have to be superwoman all the time. Actually, I simply couldn’t…

I saw what for many years I felt like were qualities of weakness fall by the wayside as I leaned into love and wha-la…healing could start to take place in my body.

There is no doubt in my mind that the years of being single and learning the art of loving myself fiercely is what has prepared me for the most divine, loving, fun, and adventurous relationship I could ever call in.

And you have been part of this journey for me.

Reading my notes, blogs, and holding space for my vision as I have shared them over the years.

If you are finding you too need love, share your story with me here.

It doesn’t have to come in the form of a romantic relationship, but if that is what you are seeking, don’t think for a second that you are not worthy of it!

There are so many forms of connection and love that can fill your cup, and this is an area I must say I had to get real good at for years while I was single. So I am here to share what has worked for me with you.

As I slide into fall and into the arms of my beloved man, I am so thrilled to rest easy and know that if I can manifest the man of my dreams, you too can have anything your heart desires.

And whatever it is you are seeking, it is seeking you too with fierceness, and when you come to love yourself unconditionally and all parts, you will find each other too.

Stay tuned if you are interested in how you too can manifest the partner of your dreams!

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